Healthy and unhealthy relationships | Childline
There are top 6 differences of healthy and unhealthy relationships. Find out in this post. If you can relate to most of the list, you are likely in a healthy relationship. If you can't you need to consider learning what makes a relationship unhealthy. Each relationship is most likely a combination of both healthy and unhealthy characteristics. Relationships need to be maintained and healthy relationships take.
You have to spend time with that person to get an idea of what a relationship with them would be like. Much of making a healthy choice of a partner will be based on how you feel when you are with this person. Realistically, these feelings are partially due to natural chemicals in your body including neurotransmitters and hormones.
This feeling is present when first attracted to someone. So the real challenge to finding a healthy relationship is differentiating the natural chemical induced in-love feeling from feelings based on the behavior of your partner toward you.
These behaviors are typically based on power and control of a person. They are not based on genuine respect, appreciation and love of that person. The power and control wheel below shows some of these behaviors which are abusive or might lead to an abusive relationship.
Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships
Pushing, hitting, threatening violence Name-calling, putting you down, blaming you for their actions Destroying your property or harming loved ones children or pets Isolating you from family and friends The first sign that a relationship is unhealthy will be how you feel.
We have all experienced that uncomfortable feeling when our intuition tells us something is just not right. Listen to that feeling. If you feel hurt, humiliated, saddened, resentful or just confused, this is your sign to ask yourself why you feel this way.
If your feeling is based on one of the behaviors in the power and control wheel, this is a RED FLAG that the relationship is unhealthy or going in an unhealthy direction. Be careful not to minimize these behaviors. So what does a healthy romantic relationship look like? Aristotle believed that true love is friendship, and friendship is only really possible between equals Aristotle.
10 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
Do loved ones complain that you are hurting them? Do you grab loved ones so hard that they are bruised afterwards? Do you kick or strike pets? When you are upset do you throw objects at loved ones? Do you pressure your partner to accept forceful or violent acts during sex? Do you raise your voice in anger on a regular basis when talking to loved ones?
Unhealthy Relationships - Family Planning
Do you seek out arguments with loved ones? Do you publicly embarrass or humiliate loved ones? Have you made threats to harm loved ones? Do you monitor or have to know the location of your partner at all times?
Do you expect others to act like your parents expected you to act? Could you be described as Dr.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
Do you have expectations that no one can reach? Do you blame others for your problems? Do you have to control how loved ones spend money?